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But not all long-term couples will be heading down the aisle, according to Hannah Seligson's book, "A Little Bit Married." Seligson explores the trend of serious twenty- and thirty-something couples who invest years and even a decade in a relationship without the intention of ever getting married.
Just because a couple plays house by cohabitating or taking vacations with each other's families, that doesn't necessarily equate to marriage, Seligson said. Her book, released earlier this year, combines scientific research and interviews with more than 160 couples who are "a little bit married." CNN asked Seligson about these lengthy relationships, cohabitation and advice for couples who are in long-term relationships.
But as a baseline, Ian Kerner, Ph D, LMFT, licensed psychotherapist, couple's therapist and author of "I've worked with a lot of couples who have strong relationships, and they met and fell in love quickly and really got to know each other's friends and family," Kerner says.
I don't recommend stomping your feet or declaring, "I better have a ring by Christmas or ELSE." Instead, explain that you want him to know your plans for the future because you want to make sure you're on the same page.
He is always ready to make a date for tonight or this weekend but rarely makes plans for the distant future.
For instance, you ask him to plan a romantic vacation for next year and he acts hesitantly telling you, "That sounds great, but let's wait until it gets closer before booking the flight and hotel." 2.
My boyfriend, unfortunately, isn't on the same page.
Naturally, it's causing a lot of tension between us. Should I just keep my feelings to myself from now on? But on the same note, a girl shouldn't feel like she's waiting around forever for a ring that may or may not come.